How to Cope with Grief and Loss During the Holiday Season
The holiday season is seen as a time of joy, togetherness, and a celebration of family and traditions. Yet, for many, this time of year can be marked by sorrow, particularly for those who have lost a loved one. If you find yourself struggling with grief, you are not alone. Here are some ways to help you navigate grief during the holiday season:
Acknowledge the Complexity of Grief
Grief is a feeling of heaviness and loss. People often feel sad, angry, lonely, guilty, or numb. There is no correct way to grieve, these emotions will come and go in their own way seemingly outside of our control. At times these emotions will be stronger, and at times they will fade into the background. Some days you may feel like crying, and some days you may feel unable to cry. It’s important to remember that there is no “correct way” to grieve.
Seek Support
Grief can be very isolating, especially during festive times like the holiday season. Reach out to friends that care about you and let them know that you are having a hard time. If you choose to celebrate the holidays with others, make sure you feel comfortable taking breaks or time for yourself when you need it. If you are unable to find someone to talk with, there are many online grief support groups that can help you connect with others during this time. Importantly, this is a time to take care of yourself, to be compassionate with your experience, and prioritize your healing.
Honoring Your Loved One
While your holiday season may look different than it did in previous years, it’s important to think about what traditions or rituals are meaningful for you. You may choose to start new traditions such as lighting a candle in honor of your loved one, telling stories, cooking their favorite foods, or volunteering in that person’s name. These acts can help you feel connected and supported by the memory of your loved one.
Staying Sober
If you have struggled with substance use, the holidays can be particularly difficult and you may need extra support during this time. If you are traveling, you may choose to attend a recovery meeting in the area where you are traveling to. You might need to think about certain triggers that you may encounter while visiting old friends and family, and make a plan for how to avoid or leave situations that will be difficult for you.
The holiday season may be a particularly challenging time to cope with loss, but it’s important to remember that it’s okay to adjust, slow down, and grieve in your own way. By honoring your emotions, seeking support, and practicing self-compassion, you can navigate this season with greater care and gentleness toward yourself.
